Here’s a little something we’ve been giving a little thought lately: nowadays, our society seems to be full of adulescents trapped in a limbo between childhood and adulthood. They have been dubbed the ‘Peter Pan Generation’. Who are they? Typically men between their late 20s and late 30s, smart, educated and professionally successful.
Don’t tell us you don’t know any. We definitely know some.
They hide behind the “I’m not ready for a relationship yet” or “It’s not you, it’s me”, “You’re fantastic but I have issues to fall in love” BS. Yeah, right. Of course, this won’t come out in the very early stages of your new relationship. Just to make sure you bluntly get down from that cloud 9 you happily climbed on.
So what do they do instead? Work-travel-party like there is no tomorrow.
The Peter Pan Generation is spoilt for choice. The world is their oyster.
With ever more single children, many parents treat their trophy kids as if they were the most absolutely special thing in Neverland and, emboldened with a sense of entitlement and a king-size ego, Peter Pans have nothing but great expectations. Overwhelmed by the ginormous choice in front of them, them narcissistic creatures are bitten by self-doubt and depressed.
Or is their heart so wasted? Is the thought of taking risks really so unbearable? Is getting out of your comfort zone so frightening?
So how do you handle a Peter Pan specimen when you meet one? Well, ladies, most of the times, we’re afraid you don’t. First of all, unfortunately, there is no warning sign in the beginning. A Peter Pan can only be identified in time. You might even be impressed by his professional ambition, by his frequent travelling (attention, do not mistake it for wanderlust! This is just them escaping). If you’re lucky, you will realise it before it’s too late for your heart.
But if not, no matter how good you are or what you do to make it work, it won’t. Even worse: the more you try the more it will fail.
At this point, unless you have an awesomely high self-esteem, this will result in some serious questioning on your own worth. In that case, you’d better have amazing friends to surround you.
Hey Peter, we know you just care for fun & games. But if you come out of Neverland, we could play together.